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Treatment for Relationship Challenges in Individual or Couples Counselling

Intimate relationships can be one of the most beautiful and painful aspects of life. Even when we have found a relationship with understanding, acceptance and love, we may still feel vulnerable to issues that can put significant pressure on us, our partner, and the relationship. We can also experience different types of challenges through the phases of our lives and the way we cope with these challenges can often differ from our partner. Unfortunately, these challenges can lead to issues in our relationships, such as:

  • Arguments

  • Complacency

  • Conflict

  • Disconnection

  • Divorce

  • Infidelity

  • Intimacy Issues

  • Mental Illness

  • Neglect

  • Separation

  • Sexual Difficulties

  • Violence

When to seek help ​

A common issue is that couples avoid counselling until they are at breaking point. While this is understandable, the problem with this strategy is that there is a lot more pain, bitterness and work to do when counselling starts. It is much better to address issues early so that you can both get back to enjoying each other.

Here is a list of common signs that relationship counselling could be helpful:​

  1. If conversations tend to leave one or both partners feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to avoid future conversations.

  2. When one or both partners consider having an affair or has had an affair(s). Recovering from an affair is not impossible, it does take a lot of work.

  3. If either of you feels a lack of intimacy and that you might as well be roommates.

  4. When the partners do not know how to resolve their differences and the same issues keep on triggering awful fights.

  5. When the only resolution appears to be separation.

  6. When a couple is only staying together for the sake of children.

How Couples Counselling Works

I can help you to improve the quality of your relationship. I primarily help couples by using the Gottman Method which is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple's relationship dynamics and integrates research-based interventions.​

The interventions that I utilise with you are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas:

  1. Friendship

  2. Conflict management

  3. The creation of shared meaning

Counselling will help you to learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts.

Interventions are designed to increase closeness, promote intimacy and trust, and improve your friendship. Counselling will help deepen your emotional connection and create changes that can help you to achieve shared and individual goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed.​

The goal is to provide you with effective tools that you can use to overcome difficulties in your relationship.

Alternatively, there are situations where it may be best to end the relationship and we will support and guide you to acknowledge that and move to a healthy and amicable separation.

My aim is to make your experience of counselling accessible, enjoyable, and, most importantly, effective. I understand that seeking psychological support can be an anxiety-provoking experience.  You are welcome to contact me and I will answer your questions.

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